The words you say have an effect on YOU. You not only choose the words you say but you hear them as well. When you hear what you say it reinforces that thought, whether it is positive or negative. Try thinking something and then saying it out loud. You’ll notice the thought becomes more concrete when it is voiced. Try repeating nice things about yourself. You’ll notice you feel better. Now try repeating negative things about yourself. It doesn’t feel good because you have thought it AND heard it.
One way to change the world from something that drives you to something you control is by how you describe your realty. There are two ways you can describe your reality; as something you “have” to do or something you “choose” to do. Saying “I have to go to the store,” “I have to work out,” or “I have to go to work” is a victim mentality. You are implying you are not in control of your life, which in turn conceptually absolves you of any responsibility because you are not the designer of you reality, but rather its victim. By changing a sentence from “I have to do this” to “I am going to do this” or “I choose to do this” you are changing your mindset to acknowledge that there are choices in life and that you are responsible for your path. You do have choices and even though it might not be easy, there is always another way to live your day, week, month, or year. The first step in realizing this is owning your choices. By describing your reality in terms of things that you choose to do, you are accepting responsibility for yourself and reinforcing that you are the master of your reality and not its victim. So be mindful of what you say because your words not only have an effect on other people but they have an effect on you. You hear everything word you say. Describe your life in terms choice and your mind will open up a whole different set of possibilities that you wouldn’t see if you describe your life in terms of obligations.